More tension? Less rules!

When there is a lot of tension at home, because of the child's behaviour, it is best to lessen the demands and rules. Of course, you already do that, but it is good to know that that is necessary! First of all you have to improve the atmosphere  and stop trying to teach your child how to behave. He obviously cannot do that at the moment. It is as simple as that.

Also, your anxiety and your anger makes the situation so much more difficult for him.

So, less demands. First more peace and quiet. That is easier said than done, I am sure. You must create a internal button, that puts you automatically in a relaxed mood, as soon as your child goes wild!

Then, take your child to a room and play with him there, as he likes it and with whatever he wants. You'll see, then, things will change gradually, without much effort, because your child will become more social and more cooperative.